Adoption Update: The Meeting

So we're back from our meeting this morning with the birthmama. It was easier than we thought and we even had fun. When we got there, we sat down first with our social worker to get "briefed" for the discussion. She told us what to emphasize ("We really respect you!") and what to steer-clear of ("So tell me about Baby's father."). This was very helpful. Then it was time, and Baby's mama came in. Instantly my heart melted. Here was this sweet 16 year old girl with a beautiful smile and quiet presence, gracefully shaking my hand like she was 25.

We learned that these past two weeks have been difficult ones for her, with the first family she chose not working out, and another option falling through. BUT she was really glad to meet us and ask us about our marriage and family life. We went through our family profile book together and laughed about our Campbell made-up holidays and how I can't work math (something she loves). She told us that at the beginning she chose us, but then other circumstances came up and so she didn't move forward with meeting us until now. When we asked her what drew her to our book she said, we seemed like a happy family and that she liked how creative I was (photos of my hobbies were in the book). In the end though what she really wanted to know was, where we happily married? From what our social worker told us, this is not something she has seen in her own family- a happy marriage. We told her about what we respect about each other and how our differences bring perspective and lots of laughs. This was where we were able to talk about how, because of God's love for us, we are able to love each other and forgive when we wrong one another... and we each think the other is smokin' hot. (Actually, as true as it is, we elected to leave that part out for today.)

We know she's planning to meet with another couple (who are friends of a friend) on Saturday, and we encouraged her to take the time she needs with making her choice and that we respect her decision. We know Who is ultimately making the decision, so we're not anxious. :-) I don't know for sure, but I do think that he might be our baby... in the meantime, I can't stop lovin' him... and why should I? (got a Phil Collins song stuck in your head there? You're welcome.)